How To Word Your Affirmations For Maximum Benefit!

Affirmations are a great way to keep yourself in truth of who you really are. The first time I heard about affirmations was through Louise Hay’s amazing book, “You Can Heal Your Life”. In fact, that’s the book that introduce me and got me hooked to the whole “thought become things” philosophy.

While some peeps like to use affirmations as the only tool and find it very effective by itself. Personally, I like to use in conjunction with other techniques. And the BIG advantage of affirmations is that you can do them anytime, anywhere no matter what you are doing.

Unlike visualization, meditation, journaling etc. which require you to set some time aside, you can do affirmations all day long if you please. Personally, I use them while entangled in mundane matters such as washing dishes, laundry etc.

Speak The Affirmation That Speaks To You!

The key to defining the right affirmation is making sure that it resonates with you. Remember, the whole idea is to reach your subconscious mind and infuse it with these positive thoughts and feelings. The subconscious responds really well to feelings and so it is important for the affirmation to be accompanied by a positive feeling.

So, for example, if you are looking for more abundance in your life and the affirmation “I AM abundance” does not have a positive charge to it and does nothing for you, it will be better to pick a different affirmation, one that does  speak to you.

If no one is around, you can even do them out loud. The spoken word carries its own energy that will help conjure the right kind of feelings.

Having Trouble Finding The Right Words?

If you are finding it hard to construct an affirmation that gets you all pumped out, try out this technique that I picked up from Matt Kahn: think of the one thing you would want to hear from an important person in your life and then say that to yourself. If it’s something that you truly want to hear, it will automatically have a positive charge to it. Right?

How To Remember To Do Affirmations..

Of course, in the beginning the biggest challenge is to cut through all the mind chatter and actually remember to do the affirmations. That will work out with time, persistence and patience.

But in the meantime a good way to get those affirmations to play in your head is to sing them out. Sounds silly I know! You don’t have to belt out a symphony, even if you say them out loud in a sing-song tone, that’ll work! You know how sometimes a tune will get stuck in your head and play over and over again. That’s what we are trying to do here. Give it a try. Set aside a few minutes everyday to sing out your affirmation!

You could also place reminders or notes to yourself and stick them up on your fridge, your desk, laptop, on the bookshelf, carry them around with you in your bag.

These are the tricks that I use anway. I would love to hear your experience with affirmations and if you have any tricks in your bag to make them more effective!

Take Pixel Petite For A Test Drive

Graphic 1

Step 1: In the “Background” layer, change the width and height to 400 px and click the “Change Size” button. Choose a color and play around with the opacity


Step 2: Click on the “Background Pattern” layer scroll up/down and choose any background pattern. Choose a color and play around with the size and opacity.


Step 3: Next, click on the “Select A Shape” layer and scroll to choose a shape (you can select only one shape). Move it around, change it size. Note that the default color of the shape is white, so if your background is white the shape won’t be visible till you set a color for the shape in the “Shape Color” layer. Play around with the shape color/opacity and also give it a pattern (in the “Shape color” and “Shape Pattern layers)


Step 4: Next, click on the text layer. Enter any text in the “Input text” field and click “Add”.


Once you have added the text, move it around to position it and then set its font type/size/color/opacity. Click Save


While still in the “Text” layer input some other text as before. position it and then set its font type/size/color/opacity as well. Save.


Step 5: Right at the top you will find the “Export” button. Before you save, click on the “-” and the “+” to zoom out and in. Click the “Export” button to save the image to your computer. Please save it and open it up from your computer to check if all is good!

That’s it for Graphic 1.

Now on to Graphic 2…

Graphic 2

Step 1: With the app open (after you’ve saved the previous image), refresh the browser to start from a clean slate. Again, while in the “Background” layer change the width and height to 400 px.

Step 2: Click on “Import An Image” layer. Click “Browse” to select an image from your computer (or you can download the 2 images below and use them. Just right click on the and save to your computer). Adjust its size to fit the background.


Images for download (right click to save to your computer):



Step 3: Move on to the “Select A Shape” layer and choose one…adjust its size and position.

Step 4: Go to the “Import an image for the shape” and browse to a second image on your computer. Adjust the size of the imported image if needed.


Step 5: If you have some time, test the text layer as before. Else, just save the image to your computer using the “Export” button and open it up to check it!

That’s all :)


How To Find A Good Domain Name

So you are super set to launch your new website and are ready to piece together all the necessary ingredients: a domain name, hosting, wordpress installation and what not. You want to zoom ahead at full speed but might find yourself stuck at the very first step, that is, choosing a domain name.

Oh, but what is a domain name? A domain name is simply the web address to your website. For example:, etc. are the domain names for these websites.

With the world wide web exploding with a gazillion websites, chances are that the domain of your dreams is not available anymore. There are extensions other than .com which have been around for a long time such as .net and .org. And to keep up with the growing demand, new extensions cropping up everyday: .biz, .mobi, .club etc. And yes, in all likelihood you should be able to find at least one extension where your domain is still available.

So what do you do? Do you settle for a .net or a .org extension? Many seem to go that route, but the truth is that those extensions have specific uses. For example, .org extension is meant for non-profit organizations and .net for a network. Or how about a .biz? That should work for most small businesses, right?

Personally, I wouldn’t do that. I am still totally biased towards “.com”. And the reasons are simple: recall value. Since the web has become synonymous with .com websites, if yours is a .com domain then it will go down well with your visitors.

That’s not to say that if your domain has an extension other than .com, you’re doomed! Nope. I have seen many .net, .biz, .me websites that are thriving. But it’s happened more than once that I typed out their domain name with a .com – as a matter of habit, only to be taken elsewhere.Of course, you can bookmark websites and that does away with the need to manually type out the domain name, but many visitors will visit a website that old-fashioned route: by typing out the name in the web address field.

But the good news is that you can get really creative with the domain name; it doesn’t necessarily have to make much grammatical sense! If you’re shopping around on Namecheap and you find that the name you wanted is taken, the website will offer you a bunch of suggestions (which are essentially synonyms of your original choice). But you can take it a step further. For example, say you’re website is to do with real estate, think of things that are representative of your business. So you might come up with: bricks, walls, house, home etc. Now add this representation to a noun/verb/adverb or whatever. So for example,, bricksintohomes etc.

See what resonates with you, go with your instinct! Just make sure that whatever you choose is short, memorable, easily read & understood, available as a username on social platforms and finally stay away from including established brands in the name.

Hope that’s not too tall an order!

Bad Reviews Make Me Wanna…

imageWP1….write a blog post apparently!

Yup. When I first saw the not so sparkly 2-star review for my book, WordPress For Beginners, my knee jerk response was to comment on the post itself. But I resisted, because you know, that’s just so “needy”.

Instead, here I am writing a whole long blog post about it, almost a month later. And no that’s not needy…right? RIGHT?

Ya? ;)

Before I go on, let me just say that writing a book can be a terrifying experience. You’re putting something so personal out into the world with no control over how it will be received. can a book on web design be “something so personal”, you ask?

Well, I don’t care if the topic is Potatoes of Idaho, if it’s a book, it’s personal. Period.

Also, writing a book on WordPress is not easy as the software is constantly evolving. Every few months there’s a new update and it gets really hard to keep all the content forever fresh. Also, editing a published book takes time, no matter how small the change. So unless it’s absolutely necessary, I wait for 3-4 edits to pile up before I take the book down for making changes.

Anyway back to the review – when I first noticed it, I was on vacation. Which isn’t to say I didn’t care about it- I took a few breaths, acknowledged the hurt, realized that every reader is entitled to his/her opinion and then distracted myself with many a vacation goodies.

I really thought I had made my peace with it, but turns out I was in denial. And this realization dawned upon me just yesterday.

Yesterday was one of those days when, you know, for no reason at all you find yourself mired in anxiety, fear, insecurity and other equally delectable emotions. And then to top it all, out of the blue, I thought about the review.

And this time it STUNG.

And this time there were no distractions to protect me.

So this time I decided to vent. Just a tad.

Now let me be clear, I really do think that each reader (and consumer in general) is entitled to his/her opinion and my objective is not to impugn their review or get defensive. Instead, the underlying aim of this blog post is two-fold: (1) Give my insecurities a voice and (2) Present my side of the “story”.

But first off, some gratitude for the review: it did get me to stop procrastinating and make a few changes to the book. Changes that weren’t that big a deal, but long overdue. So thank you reviewer, for the well deserved kick in the butt!

Okay on to the “review of the review”, if you will.

#1 The reviewer: ” If you want to draw viewers to your site do not purchase this book, it is a waste of your money.”

Me: Okay, this one really killed me. And since I am dead, there’s not much I can say.

(Wakes up from the dead..)

#2 The reviewer: “…scattered in direction & the SEO advice is already outdated”

Me: I put in a lot of thought to plan out the book and I tried my best to present the material in a way that would make it easy for the readers to set up a website and also leave room for flexibility to make changes in the future. That’s why I divided the content into 3 steps: The Essentials, The Optimization, The Design. Also, the book uses a companion website, so it’s not all theory.

I am quite sure, if I had to do it all over again, I would stick to the 3-step format.

As for the SEO advice, the book covers the basics of SEO and gives common sense tips and advice, instead of the latest “hacks” to manipulate the search results. The only part that I thought was outdated was the bit on the Google keyword tool and that’s been fixed.

#3 “There are better resources & youtube videos.”
Me: Now that really is a subjective call and might be true, so can’t say much there.

#4 If the Author would have done more research and thought out a plan for the book & site it might have been better.
Me: Let me just say here that plenty of research and planning went into it. That’s something I can say with sincere conviction and honesty. #2 above has more details.


That’s that I guess. Not sure if I am feeling better, but it had to be done.

Until next time…ciao.

Menu Editor For WordPress 3.5

#1: From the WordPress dashboard, go to ‘Appearance’, ‘Menus’ to reach the ‘Menus’ screen.

#2: Choose any name for the menu, feed it in the ‘Menu Name’ field and click on the ‘Create Menu’ button.

#3 Under ‘Theme Locations’, choose the menu you just created from the ‘Primary Menu’ drop down. Save.

Theme Location For The Custom Menu

#4:   Find the ‘Pages’ panel ; here you will find a list of pages that you have published on your site so far. Click on ‘View All’ tab of the ‘Pages’ panel to get the option of adding the ‘Home’ page to the menu. Check all the pages that you want to add to the navigation bar and click ‘Add to Menu’.

Add New Pages To The Menu

#5: Now, all the selected pages will appear as tabs on the right hand side in the ‘Menus’ screen.

Menu Items

#6 Drag and Drop each page’s tab, up or down depending on your preference. The top-most tab will be the first menu item in the navigation bar and so on.

Save the menu when you are done!

Put The Menu Items In The RIght Order

Refresh your website to check out your brand new navigation bar.

To add blog posts, categories etc. to the custom menu use the ‘Screen Options’ on the top right corner of the ‘Menus’ screen to check the boxes for Posts, Categories etc. Scroll down the ‘Menus’ screen and you should now be able to find the ‘Posts’ and ‘Tags’ panels as well.

Checking the ‘Automatically add new top-level pages’ in the ‘Menus’ screen will make sure that as and when you publish pages, they will automatically find their way into the navigation bar.

Create Sub Menu Items

You can also create sub menu items by dragging a tab below any tab and to its right, like so:

Create Sub Menu Items

Renaming Menu Items

Expand the tab for the menu item that you would like to rename by clicking on the tiny down arrow on the right hand side of the tab. Input the name you’d like to give it under “Navigation Label”

Rename Menu Items

Additional Custom Menus

Click on the “+” icon to add another custom menu and follow instructions given above

Additional Custom Menus